Sunday, April 15, 2012
For a long time now I have believed that the things we are attracted to - the attributes in the people we admire, the traits they have which make us envious, and little physical characteristics or personality quirks that we think are smart or sexy or charming - give us insight into who we truly want to be. I believe that the attraction, that emotional reaction that says, "Wow, why don't I have that?" is really, "Oh, so that's what I am supposed to look like." It's not always clean and simple. Sometimes we get confused about what it is exactly that attracts us. Sometimes it's not the culture or the traditions but the experience of being connected to your history or the experience of feeling rooted and a sense of belonging. It may not be her thinness that you envy but her sense of style and the comfort she has in her own skin. Regardless, I find that this rule I have about attraction is true for me in all sorts of ways.